Let’s face it, you’re hip. You’re not into hard church pews, black and white bride and groom figurines on top of cakes and predictable rituals.
Well, good news! These days, weddings need not be boring, predictable and ‘same old’! There’s a bunch of things you can do to make your wedding ceremony funky, fresh and essentially you.
Rethink your rituals
Sure some rituals are nice, profound, even stunningly beautiful, but when you’re just following tradition because… ‘well everyone else is doing it!, it’s time to rethink your rituals. Have a deep think about what’s REALLY important to you and why you and your fiancé are actually getting married. Hold your horses, this might take some introspection? … Exactly! Think about what it is that you love about each other, what things have symbolised your union up until now and what is it that you are dying to express and declare in front of your family and friends?
Combine the old with the new.
You might decide to take the core idea behind the ritual (e.g. The exchanging of rings symbolises a couple’s promise of faithfulness to each other for all eternity) but add in your own unique gesture like putting a flower in each other’s hair. This way, you combine the traditional ritual but add your own funky flair.
I chatted with Robyn Rodda, Marriage Celebrant from Robyn’s Weddings to get her ideas on how couples can modernise their rituals. Here were her suggestions:
The Heart Lock
Different ceremonials and rituals such as “The Heart Lock” are great for the modern wedding. This is where couples use the lock as a symbol of their lifetime love for one another.
The Rose Ceremony is where the rose represents the words ‘I love you’, the bride and groom each present the other with one during the ceremony. While most of these rituals do come from much earlier days than these, they have adapted to modern times and even shortened to be just a short little ceremony within a ceremony.
The Handfasting ceremony comes from Celtic weddings but is now often adapted to suit any contemporary service. The most popular of these ceremonies are Sand, Ring Warming and Unity Candles.
A wedding sand ceremony is very popular. This is where two vessels of sand are poured together either into a third keepsake vessel, or into the wind to represent the coming together of your lives. It can also be a powerful way to unite two families if either party has children already from a previous relationship. Each member of the family is represented by different colour sand, and as each is poured into the container, the individual portions of sand will no longer exist on their own, but will instead be joined together as one. As every individual grain of sand has its own unique beauty, strength and character, when blended together, they form an entirely new and intricate whole.